Feel sorry for Maggie

Last night, I had a quarrel with Maggie, because she shamed me in public, I feel a bit fidgeted so I had a quarrel with her. That's terrible and make a chaotic around us, which make me feel more fretful. So I quit and left her alone.

I feel sorry later because she said to me in person that she is not mean to say that and feel sorry too. But she is not straight-out enough, because she said it is the fault of the person around us, if they are not join our talking, the situation would not be so tough.

Well, I understand, and it has passed, there is no big deal anyway.

I hope no more quarrels between us any more.

30s Life and Friends

To 20s, it is a time that need to add everything to your life, include skill, experience, money, rights or power, friendship, and loving.

To 30s, it is a time that you need to learn how to throw something that are not useful to you any more, so that so decrease your load and in some degree to concerntrate your life. So you need to quit some friends, quit some earning, quit some power. If the 20s life called the adding life then this life can be called minusing life. We chinese call this period of just establishing, it shows when people are in his or her 30s, his life should be like this: had a family and a stable base of his carrer, and had some accomplishment. But actually, establishing not means how much successful and great when comparing to other 30s from the outsides, but means whether you have the life standard in your inside heart, whether you have a clear understanding of what you are doing and what you are going to do, clearly and patiently, had confidence and stablity of the things you do. Do something that your inner heart is really really really fond of, but without any money or rights purpose. that is a concept of establishing.

20s is just growing up, brain and body are not totally build up. This time the crisis of making friends is the erotic. That means most baffled the 20s are the things about love affair and love relationship, where they are mostly make blunders.

30s is a period of brain and body that already build up. This time, the family and carrer are almost fixed and society recognition and friends are all almost fixed. This time the crisis of making frriends is the competition. Compete for salary, compete for rights, compete for better carrer, so compete with others or just face yourself that compete with your own ability, to see whether this carrer is suit me or not, to see whether I will go to that famous company if I am work harder? Maybe yourself work harder that chance would belong to you, even no competing with others. This time making friends should consider the kinda that have smooth heart and serene motions. That would be a good treasure of making a friend like this in your 30s, that would be gulf for tired you.

40s is a period of brains and body almost in a processing of decreased. The crisis of making friends in this time is the gets. The things and honors you GET from the past, the more you get from the past the more you would feel unrest and conplaining more. Like the children, they would conplaing they not comes to see them too often even sometimes no callings, they would conplaing the activities of the youngs, when comparing to the period of they living, the salary and the standard of living.This time make friends with such conplaing man will distressed you and make you tired of life.

Actually, making friends is not always depend on the people you want to make, but also reflect yourself that what kind of person you are that to make the others think they can make friends with you and whether you are a good person or a bad person to your friends, a good person just like a seed that would inspire the friends of him and illuminate the good world.